Two days ago, our teacher asked us to write the “My personal strengths and weaknesses in communication” essay. We got used to writing essays, but this topic was something new and unexpected. Personal strengths and weaknesses belong to self-research topics. As they say, self-investigation is the most complex task because one has to study personal positive and negative sides. I have never researched myself before. Hence, I decided to start with the vocabulary to understand the requirements of my personal strength essay.
According to Cambridge Dictionary, strengths are the abilities of people to perform something, using much mental or physical effort. Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines weakness as one’s defect or someone’s desire to get something. Communication had never been my cup of tea because I grew up as a lonely child who lived in a small town. My best friends were books. I read a lot about flora, fauna, science, and other catchy things. My first real friend was a boy from a nearby town. When I went to school, I faced my first serious communication challenges.
I believe one of my personal strengths in communication is that I can talk to just about anyone. I enjoy talking with people. In communication, my strength would be that I have the ability to listen as well as respond. I enjoy having conversations with people of different cultures because it gives me a chance to learn more about their lifestyles.
I decided to read more about my communication difficulties on the Internet. Professionals recommend taking ten steps to improve verbal and non-verbal communication skills. Speaking about verbal communication, first, one needs to think before speaking. Second, it is necessary to use precise language. Third, a speech is to be listener-oriented. Fourth, one should select the required tone. Fifth, body language is essential because it can show more than words. Sixth, it is good to listen attentively to show that your partner’s comments are significant to you. Seventh, confident speech provides a positive impression. Eighth, one should be sincere. Ninth, it is necessary to practice communication skills. Tenth, one should ask friends or relatives to give feedback about speeches one provides.
I have learned to communicate well with people because I am an outgoing person. Furthermore, I communicate better one on one. I have a weakness with communication when it comes to having to speak to a large group of people. I become very nervous, and will sometimes forget what I wanted to say. So, I tried to check those ten recommendations. They work. I noticed how it is important to show respect to your partner by listening to him, speaking politely, and distinctly, and discussing topics that are interesting for both dialog participants.
My weakness in communication is also when I have to speak in front of the class, or in front of a very large group of people I become nervous because of my weakness of thinking that they are more focused on me than on the information that I will be presenting. I work at that weakness by having the personal strength to try to make the presentation enjoyable so that the focus will not be so much on the speaker, but on the information being presented to the group.
I have learned through the years that it is important to stay focused on your strengths and not your weaknesses and to realize that for the most part, everybody else is probably just as nervous as I am. Furthermore, I have strength in the fact that I can talk about most subjects very freely. I try to communicate just the point I am trying to make and have the point understandable to those who are listening.
Communication for me is easy depending on the topic being discussed. I sometimes have a weakness in the fact that I may be too honest with my answer and do not think before answering. I realize that when you are communicating with people, they really do not want the truth because it hurts and is offensive.
Not only that, but I find that it is much easier for me to communicate when I have knowledge of the conversation being discussed. I am very weak when it comes to starting a conversation and leading the discussion. I will avoid a conversation as much as possible when I have to present the information to be discussed. In communication, I am also weak in the area that I will choose to listen more than participate.
I also have a weakness in my non-verbal communication skills. The weakness is that sometimes my body language will give a different answer than what I would have spoken. When I am using non-verbal communication as a point of contact, I will point out or agree to something by just listening to the topic being discussed. I focus on my non-verbal communication skills because I want the non-verbal to be just as understandable as the verbal. My body language must not present a different communication than intended. With non-verbal communication, I try to give more eye contact so that there is no misunderstanding of the communication intended. I find nodding your head helps in non-verbal communication because a nod can say a lot. In my communication skills, I have learned that if I highlight my strengths. Then the weaknesses would not be so obvious.
In having communicated with all different types of people, I once was told that if you stop and think for five seconds before you speak, your communication skills would present themselves in a most intelligent manner. Communication comes somewhat easy for me because I like to talk, but just talking and not communicating would become a weakness.
I try to always have something to communicate to other people that would be beneficial. Whether communicating verbally or non-verbally, your actions will, for the most part, represent how you are feeling about a particular subject or discussion. When it is possible, always, try to communicate verbally and have the person you are communicating with acknowledge that they understand what you are saying.
Communication, verbally or non-verbally, is a very powerful tool and when you understand your strengths and weaknesses in that area you will be able to communicate much more efficiently with people. When you are communicating, with different types of people, you will be able to decide if verbal or non-verbal communication would be the best approach according to their logic and the logic of the situation and surrounding environment.