Strict and controlling parents might be viewed as monsters by many. But the reality is that strict parenting does include some benefits. To be an effective parent, you have to set limits and teach the little ones to face the consequences of their actions. Strict and controlling moms and dads are aware of this, and they treat their child’s development in all aspects of life with a stable consistency. Just like parents in the rest of the world, moms and dads in Asian families set high standards for the kids and reinforce the importance of complying with those principles.
For some evident reason, my parents assumed they could have total control over my life just because they brought me into this world. For many people, the assumption that I just mentioned above is their worldview, especially for Asian parents towards their Asian American kids. I could only hope that one day my parents would give me the freedom to make my own choices and live the life that I want to live by, without any criticisms and consequences. My parents played a major role in my childhood life. Besides, they have had much influence on my life and in all aspects of it. They are closely related to the good aspects of my life, and how both the good and the bad sides contributed to make me the person that I am today.
There are many stereotypes associated with Asian parents. As a rule, the world views them pushing and urging their kids more intensely than parents of another nationality or race. Certainly, it is important to bring the truth to all the existing stereotypes.
Basically, my parents pushed me to perform well in school. In their point of view, education is the key to success. In other words, they truly believe that if I succeed in school, then I am also going to succeed in life. Due to their educational mentality, my parents seldom let me do any extracurricular activities. According to them, if the school extracurricular activities have nothing to do with the academic program, they aren’t worth my time. They have never grasped the concept of being a teenager of the 21st century. They didn’t care if I liked to sing or enjoyed playing a musical instrument. I felt to be under total control. As a result, I missed a unique chance to experience and express myself as an individual without my parents hovering over me.
My parents controlled every move than I made. They did their best to help me become more on task and to be on top of my schedule. I became more educated as a human being, which means I’m ready to use my knowledge to benefit my future. I learned to be more responsible for getting my work done on time. As a result, I graduated in the top five percent of my graduating class.
It is not a secret that strict parents that tend to control their children might push them to be more successful academically. Authoritative moms and dads truly believe that their children can do better in all possible pursuits, and expect them to comply with their standards that are usually sky-high. As far as I know, kids born to strict and controlling parents are really successful academically for several reasons. First of all, they learn to be self-disciplined. As a result, they tend to study more, pay attention to the smallest details, and get better scores in high school or college. These kids are likely to get a high school diploma and enroll in college or university. At the same time, many children raised by strict and demanding parents are usually obedient and succeed in college. Even though kids do not like it when their moms and dads try to control every part of their life, this type of parenting is usually associated with college success.
I have to also admit that my caring parents were always there to protect me from drugs and the rest of the negative influences that the street might hide. For that reason, I was less likely to be associated with the “bad” crowd. I never wanted to disappoint them, so I primarily tried my best in everything I did. At the same time, I have always distanced myself from bad habits, such as alcohol or drugs.
Being under a strict authority also taught me discipline and respect. My parents have always told me, “It is extremely important in the Asian culture to respect all those people that are older than you regardless of your age and status.” I tried to do everything they asked me to do, and I’d put my trust in them that it would all pay off in the end. As a result, I created a closer relationship with my family.
From their overly controlling, yet loving nature, my parents helped me become who I am today. They imposed some restrictions upon me that I would never do as a parent. I resented the fact that they hardly ever let me do any after school activities or participated in any events. I struggled and at times, I fought with them to be a part of a school choir, a hobby that I enjoyed and relied on when I couldn’t turn to my parents for support. Many years have passed since those days. I have adapted to their ways of parenting. Their parenting has influenced me so that I managed to become a more prominent person. Both my mom and dad have taught me to live this life more efficiently. I’m sure that I have to thank them because I am now looking at a bright future ahead of me even though I made some sacrifices.
After all, in the end, I am blessed to have concerned parents to guide me and educate me of what is wrong and right. I am more than sure that it is due to their caring nature I have successfully avoided many mistakes that could seriously spoil the life of any man. Besides my parents helped me to become an independent adult. They taught me to think for myself, compromise, as well as find the right solutions for my own problems. Let’s face it, strict parents are the ones to require their children to find good jobs when the right time comes and save some bucks. As a result, kids know how to spend and save, which means they value their money even at a very young age. And that’s what I am grateful for as well!
Even though there were times when it was hard having authoritative parents, I will use this experience as a guide to how I would prefer to raise my kids. I’ve undergone the bad side and the good side of having authoritative parents with the pros and cons that coincides with it. Despite the fact that at times I felt so overprotected and controlled, I have come to realize that their intentions were always pure. They exerted every effort to give me a positive outlook on my future. Whether or not the parents possess authoritative qualities, it is important to let the 21st-century youth discover their own lifestyle and permit them to express themselves as unique individuals.